I lost my wife and partner to cancer in the autumn of last year. I’ve been living and writing on Cape Cod. [Shopping alone on a rainy winter Sunday.] Half the things in my cart I don’t eat. But you do. ∞ See, they’re here for you. I’ll take them…

Losing a Love and Finding Yourself, Again I couldn’t stand being there another night; not after eight months of COVID and hospice and soggy masks and empty needles and used catheters catching my socks, nodding to another caring stranger by the bed. My wife had just died after 12 years…

The mental fog that comes with end-stage liver failure often turns to delirium; toxins in the blood cannot be cleared and anemia deprives the brain of the oxygen it needs to perform higher order functions like comprehension and conversation. The cancer in my wife’s liver brought us to this place…

You may be wanting to forget 2019, but chances are good that your boss doesn’t or can’t. It’s performance review season — the second happiest time of the year! Okay, maybe not so much. Performance reviews are among the least favorite encounters for both the reviewer and the recipient. This…

People get us wrong all the time, which means we get them wrong all the time. As the holidays approach, as you navigate the pressurized social circumstances they bring, when there is relatively little time or desire to think, when food and alcohol dumb us all down, you might want…

Learning to de-bug our lives as a daily ritual can makes us healthier and more resilient. We can look to the original ginga ninjas for inspiration. They create mental maps of one another and where they live and are smarter because of this process. A reader recently asked, “How do…

Yielding — offering no resistance — is ultimately a selfish and self-sustaining act but with positive social consequences. Bringing greater presence into our lives means finding ways to make space for others. What would you do to have greater peace of mind and keep it? I suspect that letting someone…

178 years ago, Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote that we know better than we do. The ‘knowing’ he was referring to wasn’t the thinking knowledge we gain from books and teachers but the wisdom we possess from our greater intelligence — a knowing that goes beyond the trained, externally conditioned mind…

How Not Thinking Quite So Much Can Make Us Smarter Spring is here. By now, you’re a few months into your New Year’s resolutions. Or, you’ve already abandoned these and are looking for something new. In either case, here’s a practice to add to your health and wellness commitments for…